If you are looking to grow in any way shape or form, one of the most crucial things that you can do for yourself is to find someone who won’t lie to you. Someone so brutally honest that they might even scare you a little bit. I’ve had a lot of mentors in the past and while they were all great at helping me become my “best self”, they didn’t challenge me. You need to find a mentor who understands you at a deeper level and who knows what you are capable of at your core. Someone who will guide you, love you, show you what you are capable of but isn’t afraid to rip you a new one if you aren’t reaching your full potential.
I have a two-year-old. He thinks he knows what he wants and when he wants it. Most of the time, he is well mannered, kind, and overall a great kid. I give him compliments for being so good all the time. But what if, when he was doing things, he knew he shouldn’t or even when he was doing things that were bad for him that he didn’t realize were bad for him… what if I just let him. Slowly, his good actions would morph into bad ones. His overall good nature would become crazy and out of sorts. It’s important to find someone that will treat you like a child and force you to act in a way that helps you grow. I’m not talking about someone who will micro-manage you (that is very different). But in order to reach your full potential, you need to find someone who will call you out on all your bullshit.